Looking Inside

Sisters,
I have been thinking about something for a few days and wanted to just express my concern. I have looked and wondered why we blame others for our problems. I wondered why we do not look inside ourselves when there is a conflict. We most always look outside at the person that has wronged us, etc. we are not accountable for them.
When I think about how God is going to hold us accountable for everything that we do, it leaves us no time to look outward. We HAVE to look inward, if we want to be in His will. No matter how much it hurts, no matter how wrong the other person in the conflict may be, we must look inward.
I believe we look inward and ask God to clean us of anything that is not like Him. I thought about this more today after I read that Bebe Winans was cleared of the charges on him. And I have no judgement because I was not there, but what I did see was that he remained quiet during the whole ordeal. Quiet while the media was lashing out, QUIET while his was losing deals because of the allegations. I thought about myself.
Having recently gone through some things at work, I felt the need to defend, when I could have kept quiet. I felt the need to fight back when I could have kept QUIET, I had to explain and accused.
Then I had to ask , " Where was my faith when I was in the middle of this.  I knew theywere wrong mean spirited and untrue and I didn't keep quiet and let God work His stuff. Just because the things hurt, did I have a right to do what I felt was in my defense in stead of allowing God do to what He does best.
When I think of how Jesus was on the CROSS and never said a mumbling word and He was definitely more righteous than I.  If He was QUIET as they killed Him why can't I be QUIET when people are just talking about me or saying ugly things to me.
I was much QUIETER at one time but I wonder where does PRIDE fit in here. Do we sometimes feel that we have been through so much and taken so much that we have a right to defend ourselves instead of letting God do it? But we haven't made the ultimate sacrifice, so why are we talking?
Have you ever said," they don't know who they are messing with, been there done that and got a t shirt"? I have and with all that I have been through I still have no right to try and step in and solve what God can do so much better.
Just think, God knows your mind and their mind and He knows what to do so that He will be glorified. I know we sometimes forget that our experiences are not about us. They are about how God may want to use them for His Kingdom.  WOW all that you have been through may be to get a message over to someone else.
How dare God use you like that? All the time you thought it was about you. And I am sure some of it is for our lessons, but are we learning?
Next time there is a conflict, let's look inside, when some one is being ugly to us let's look inside and most of all let's be quiet, HOLD OUR PEACE AND LET GOD FIGHT OUR BATTLE!